Whether its leaving your partner, retraining or moving abroad, taking a big leap can be terrifying. Heres how to do it
When I was 26, I broke up with a long-term partner, got an ill-advised facial piercing and changed careers all in the space of a month. What I learned during those four weeks is that life is like a cake: you cant unbake it if you dont like the flavour; sometimes, you need to chuck the entire thing in the bin and start again from scratch. It is harder that way, but who wants to spend the rest of their life eating cupcakes when really they wanted lamingtons? Change is hard. Change is scary. Change is a tedious administrative nightmare. Unfortunately, change is also critical to our continued happiness as humans. Even if we cant bring ourselves to embrace change, we should try not to avoid it at all costs.
But what about life-changing changes? How do you make the leap into unknown waters whether it is swapping jobs, moving to the other side of the world or even leaving your marriage? We spoke to experts and people who have made major life changes to get the lowdown.
Listen to your gut
Claudia, a 30-year-old teacher from London, was wedding-dress shopping with her mother in April 2018 when she broke down. My mum looked at me in the shop and said: You seem so unhappy. Claudia confessed she had been having doubts. I had been having panic attacks, and at that moment I decided it was best not to go ahead with it, she remembers. She went home that evening and told her fiance the wedding was off.